For years, people have sought the wisdom of sages, the know-how of mentors, and the clarifying skills of psychologists. The latest role designed to help people live their best lives is that of the life coach, and KettleSpace member and life coach Devin Weafer spoke to me last week about what he does and why it’s important. He also shared some tips for changes you can make in your life in 2020. Or today!
Todd: What is a life coach?
Devin: A life coach is a guide that helps someone discover themselves and holds them accountable to their highest expression of self and potential, personally and professionally.
Todd: How did you get into this field?
Devin: From when I was a child, my parents were always pushing me to be introspective, to become my best self. And so I was raised in a very conscious family. My father's a psychologist, and my mother is a social worker. So you could say that what I do is sort of in my blood.
Todd: What is a common problem that your clients encounter?
Devin: They're not in alignment with their values. They get sidetracked. A business will go off the deep end if they're not paying attention to their values... Same as with people. Unless we're in alignment, unless all these different parts within ourselves are collaboratively working, we can't flourish. Because we're not in alignment and we're not driving towards the things that are really important to us.
Todd: What do you like about KettleSpace?
Todd: Which KettleSpace venues do you go to most often?
Kevin: I like The Wilson. I like the setup. The environment is cool and I like the big picture that's on the wall. Things are a little bit more spread out there. I don't like being on top of somebody. Also, the Ribbon Times Square is cool. There aren't as many people there. I like how there's a lot of options at KettleSpace.
Todd : Some independent workers work from home. Do you think it’s important to leave the house and work elsewhere?
Devin: I think it's great to get out of your house and separate your work self from your home self. They are two very different people. Some people compartmentalize and have good systems for working from home, but by and large, it's really good to have it separate. [Many entrepreneurs] are constantly in work mode. You're laying in your bed thinking that you need to work. But when you're in bed you should be sleeping, or doing other things. So it's allowing for that separation, which allows the nervous system and everything to regulate... you [should] make your home your palace, your temple, your place to come back to peace and serenity.
Todd: Did you ever work from home?
Devin: I worked from home for five years when I was in sales. And in sales you have to have really good habits around getting your stuff done and also taking care of yourself. And I was always out and about meeting people. I wish I knew Kettle Space existed years ago.
Note: Devin said that at the end of the day, he used to put on Christmas lights to create a different atmosphere. It meant that the work day was over.
Todd: What is a typical morning for you like?
Kevin: I get up between 6:30 and 7 a.m. and I do breath work. It's like an active meditation where you're with your emotions, with yourself. Then gratitude, usually some prayer, reading some text that inspires me or listening to a podcast that inspires me. They say if you win the morning, you win your day.
A lot of people just get out of bed, they just start thumbing through their phone and they just start allowing the day to sort of [come at] them, as opposed to the other way around. I have exclusively from 7 to 9 a.m., that's my hours. Those are times where I just take care of me, before the world gets a hold of me, so to speak. I often tell my clients to do that, to make sure that they fill their cup up as much as possible, because the world is going to demand a lot.
Todd: Have you attended any of KettleSpace's events?
Devin: Not yet. I've only been a member for a few weeks. But I'd like to. And I think that [these events] are really great because the most important part of running a business is also having community and connection with other people. So it's so important to connect with like-minded people and have a network. And as an entrepreneur, particularly a sole entrepreneur, that connection is often times missing because you can get really isolated if you're at home all day.
Todd: Do you have any tips for independent workers on how to be their most productive and efficient selves?
Kevin: Well, first and foremost, find a community of like-minded people, that you can connect with, and where there's a structure in which you can connect with them. Like going to [KettleSpace] workshops and happy hours. Those are really great. And be really interested in other people and what they're up to. Because there's always something to learn from another person.From a productivity standpoint, master your morning and master your habits. And get really clear and break down different days for different tasks and actions. Some people try to just do work as it comes, as opposed to being on airplane mode and be like, this is my day where I'm improving my operations. This is my day where I'm doing reach out and sales-generating activities. This is my day of rest or to connect with people and network.
Todd: People tend to make resolutions at the beginning of the year. With a new year right around the corner, do you think it's a good idea to focus on making changes on January 1st?
Devin: You don't need a new year to start a new habit. All you need is a Monday. Every single day is a new day to improve and look at how you can better set yourself up for success. Oftentimes, people don't assess their day and what they do, day-in and day-out. And at the end of the day, it's just really great to review. With my clients, I have them break down different areas of their life. I have them track their habits. Did I do it? Did I not? And if they're not doing it, I have a conversation with them about that conflicted area and what's going on. Usually there's limiting beliefs around it that are stopping them from being committed and [we] work through those things, the conflict, that is coming up.
Todd: What is the value in having a life coach?
Devin: A coach holds you accountable to your highest potential, or what you say that you want to become. And they help you create that vision. They help you break that down into measurable chunks, and get really specific... If you stay in alignment with what you're committed to, you're motivated, you're consistent, and someone's there to check in on you, you can get to where you want to be. But we give ourselves a pass. We don't give other people a pass, but we give ourselves a pass a lot.
About the Author
Todd Stone is a freelance writer and a stand up comedian. He is also a graduate of the Columbia School of Journalism and has written extensively about startups, coworking and the future of work.