Amy Klein is a journalist who has spent many years writing about her journey to have a baby. Whether writing the “Fertility Diary” for The New York Times or interviewing experts on in vitro fertilization (IVF), she has tried to arm others with knowledge.
“It took three years, four miscarriages, nine rounds of IVF, and 10 doctors to finally stay pregnant,” said Amy, who gave birth to her daughter, Lily, in 2015.
Her new book, “The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment and Get Pregnant Without Losing Your Mind” (Penguin/Random House), features information about everything from what to expect during IVF to pursuing alternative approaches. Amy covered some of the same topics in the column that she wrote for The New York Times’ Motherlode blog from 2013 to 2015. She also has written for The Washington Post, Newsweek, Slate, Haa’retz, The Forward, and other publications.
“I like to think I helped a lot of people have babies over the years, or helped them get a lot of advice,” said Amy, a KettleSpace Member who worked out of Crave Fishbar and the Wilson before COVID-19 forced a suspension of service.
While her “Fertility Diary” at the Times’ Motherlode blog focused on Amy’s experience and incorporated a Q-and-A with her husband, the book — published earlier this month — is loaded with other patients’ stories and the expertise of doctors, therapists, and scientists from all over the country. It is partly a memoir, Amy said, but it’s also an effort to answer common questions, such as: How do I find a doctor? How do I pay for treatments? How do I protect my marriage? How do I deal with my best friend who doesn’t understand? What do I tell my employer?
“I made a lot of mistakes along the way, and I wanted to help people avoid the same mistakes,” Amy said. “I haven’t been through it all, but when my experience was relevant, I used it.”
Amy noted that her book is not just for people dealing with infertility. It also offers tips for those helping their loved ones, including what to say when “baby envy” creeps in.
“We don’t want advice. We don’t want to hear, ‘Just relax and it will happen for you,’” she said. “We want to hear, ‘Listen, I’m here for you. Tell me what you need.’”
National Infertility Awareness Week begins Sunday, April 19, and runs through the 25th.
About the Author
Sarah Latson is a freelance writer and editor who teaches journalism in New Jersey.